First and foremost, I have to remind people that the name Jesus was a common name in the ancient world. It wasn’t as if the incarnate God was the only one who had this name. So when one reads something about Jesus which refers to a wife, one has to ask the obvious question, “Which Jesus?” As a case in point, Barabbas, the one who was set free, and for whom Jesus took his place on the cross, also had the first name of Jesus. Of the huge number of men in the ancient world who had the name Jesus, Barabbas was just one of them, and so we have to ask the question: “To which Jesus was this tiny bit of writing in Coptic letters referring?”
Secondly, I have to ask the question as to what would be the problem if Jesus was married. Of course, it might be a problem for Roman Catholics, who somehow posit that the holiest of Christian leaders must, in fact, be celibate.
The Christian community sees something holy about marriage. We do not believe that anyone who gets married loses any spiritual qualities by having sexual intercourse in a sacred committed relationship. St. Augustine made marriage to be something that those who wished to be completely spiritual should never enter into. He suggested that sexuality in some way mars a person’s spiritual character. While I agree with a great deal of what Augustine has written for the Church, I think he was wrong about sex and marriage. Not for one moment do I believe that Jesus was married, but if He had been, it would not change anything so far as His divine nature would be concerned. At least, that’s what I believe.