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From Lament to Healing: Why ‘#ThingsOnlyChristianWomenHear’ Matters

In case you’ve missed it, Twitter has been aflame this week with the #ThingsOnlyChristianWomenHear hashtag conversation about women’s experiences in the church and everyday life. Red Letter practitioner Sarah Bessey  — a Christian author and feminist — unwittingly launched the hashtag before jumping onto a flight, only to be flooded with a torrent of responses when she landed.

While some posts describe positive experiences, the majority of tweets testify to the reality of discrimination and double standards for women in ministry and beyond.

Patriarchy is alive in well in the 21st century, but let’s be real — it’s always been a part of HIStory:

So it’s refreshing when Twitter conversations like this center women’s experiences and bring the sin of sexism to light.

And despite the requisite trolling and pushback, it’s encouraging when these voices are genuinely heard and men step up to listen.

Though male privilege is acknowledged in the thread, Christian privilege is another story. As Red Letter Christian leader Alicia Crosby points out, Christianity does not have the market cornered on misogyny:

And this dialogue certainly does not represent all women’s experiences across race, class, sexual orientation, or a host of other identities that contribute to the mistreatment of women inside and outside the church.

While deeper and more diverse truth-telling is needed in this conversation, it has become a cathartic and empowering space for many women to unpack the toxic teachings and misguided messages within Christianity.

And it has led many to dream about #ThingsChristianWomenShouldHear, a spin-off conversation that creates a vision for the kind of church God calls us to be to one another and the world.

But perhaps the best part of this trending dialogue is how both hashtags help move participants and readers from lament to healing. By holding space for women to grieve and cry out to God’s people, these conversations not only draw attention to the hard truths and injustices within church and society, but also guide us to prayerful acts of repentance and restoration.

As is the nature of Twitter, these trending topics will come to an end. But our work has only begun. May we have ears to hear these stories and the courage to respond as repairers of the breach in all our conversations and interactions — online and offline.

About The Author


Elaina is the former Interim Executive Director and Editor of RLC. A passionate community organizer and a former editor for Sojourners magazine, Elaina loves listening to people’s stories and engaging communities for social change. She holds a master's in theological studies from Wesley Theological Seminary and a master's degree in international peace and conflict resolution from American University. Elaina serves as the executive director of a religious pro-choice organization. She resides in Ohio with her dogs and is an avid singer, traveler, and camper.

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