To What KIND of Sinners Was Jesus a Friend?

It’s no secret that Christians, of various flavors and stripes, are all over the board on how we deal with sin and Sinners.  Though most of us have all sort of grudgingly agreed to “hate the sin and love the sinner,” the actual implementation of Gandhi’s admonition hasn’t always been pretty.  Some more liberal Christians are not comfortable with the “hate the sin” part and some more conservative Christians are not willing to admit that Jesus ever entertained the presence of sinners. This, of course, has put a crimp in the love part.

And all this is before we even try to create any kind of weird mutually-agreed-upon “sin list.”

Still, there are a few things to which most Christians can agree:

OUR PROCLAMATION

1.      Hate the sin, love the sinner. (Gandhi, not Bible)

2.      Jesus dined with tax collectors and other sinners.

3.      “Nothing outside a man can make him ‘unclean’ by going into him. Rather, it is what comes out of a man that makes him ‘unclean.’” (Mark 7:15, NIV)

4.      That Jesus spent time talking with an unmarried Samaritan woman, living with a man, certainly doesn’t mean he condoned her sin. Obviously.

5.      “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3, NIV)

6.      The Pharisees accused Jesus of being a Samaritan, drunkard and glutton because he spent his time among sinners. Not all of it was witnessing.

7.      The first miracle recorded in Mark’s gospel is Jesus healing a demon-possessed man who wanted nothing to do with him. (Mark 1:22-28, NIV)

8.      “You know what has happened…how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and power, and how he went around doing good and healing all who were under the power of the devil, because God was with him. (Acts 10:37-38)

9.       “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8, NIV)

10.  “A church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.”  (Abigail Van Buren)

Despite our powerful proclamation, though, our behavior—the way we spend our time, money and energy—and our relationships—the people with whom we spend the time, money and energy—aren’t always matching up with what our mouths are saying.  Too often, we have behaved according to a weird operating manual that has very little semblance to the actual person of Jesus.

OUR PROCEDURE

1.      Because a holy God hates sin, God cannot tolerate the presence of Sinners.

2.      Non-sinning Christians ought also to keep a safe distance from Sinners.

3.      Being among Sinners puts the Non-sinner at a greater risk of sinfection.

4.      Being among Sinners implies one’s endorsement of the sin.

5.      Toward the loving end of repentance, Sinners’ sin should be condemned.

6.      When absolutely necessary, interact with Sinners only to witness to them.

7.      Deal only with Sinners who are repentant and eagerly looking for salvation.

8.      Mercy—feeding, healing—should only be extended to Sinners if there’s a likely chance of a conversion.

9.      Salvation may be extended when the Sinner has stopped sinning.

10.  Only then does the Ex-sinner become eligible for acceptance, friendship and church membership.

“Oh come on, Margot.  Do you really think that’s fair?”

Ummm…yeah.  I do.  And I know this will come as a surprise to many and disappointment to some, but I’m not just referring to ultra-conservatives.  I’m talking about me.  I’m talking about you.  I’m talking about the way most of us deal with those we’ve deemed to be Other.

“But Margot…that’s because we’re right. We read the Red Letter Christian blog!  And when we signed an online petition this summer to dissuade Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz from speaking at the Willow Creek Leadership Summit, we did it in the name of all that is just!  Surely you don’t expect us to put one more piping hot Starbucks mocha latte to our lips if Howard Schultz is going to be gallivanting about the world promoting nutty conservative politics by actually speaking to these people?!?!”

And there it is.

So just humor me for a moment.  If you consider yourself more progressive, substitute the word “fundamentalist” for “Sinner” (in PROCEDURES, above), and the word “Me” for “Non-sinner.” Then see if the shoe fits.  I think it might.

If you don’t take yourself too seriously.

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Margot Starbuck is a speaker, volunteer and author of The Girl in the Orange Dress: Searching for a Father Who Does Not Fail. Her new book, Small Things With Great Love: Adventures in Loving Your Neighbor, with a foreword by Tony Campolo, will be released in January 2012.

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  • http://www.jennyraearmstrong.com Jenny Rae Armstrong

    You are amazing, Margot. :-) LOVE it!!!

  • Rickjanz

    I gotta agree.   The only charges that Jesus never denied were that he ate and drank too much and hung around with the wrong kind of people.  Oh that we could be guilty of the same. 

  • Dr. Bill

    In a world full of competing and disparate causes, and those who take those causes, and by extension, themselves, too seriously, your words are a breath of fresh air.  Of course, the battle for the supremacy of one cause over another will continue, and anyone opposing or not supporting that “cause” will be considered the “sinner” in your application.  Your concluding sentence is a prescient point in a world where some will kill and some will die to defend their cause.  Yes, I think this challenge, “If you don’t take yourself too seriously” ties up your argument very well.  By doing that one may be able to see the true cause, that of Christ, without using a mirror.

  • Natasha Robinson

    Margot, you could have tought my seminary course on Saturday! The professor spoke about this very thing. The Church’s temptation and teaching a theology of perfectionism has turned us away from the lost, put us in an “us vs. them” war, and I don’t think the political situation is helping any. In so many ways, we need to hit the reset button (not that a want a flood or anything like that). Blessings, Natasha

  • Williamkaska

    considering that far as God is concerned,sin is sin…God sees it all the same…besides,the whole point of Jesus Christ was to bring us in right relationship with God..so it doesnt matter who He hung around because everyone outside of Jesus Christ has the sin virus!

    • Joe

      What we need to not forget, is, when I’m at work, at church, at home with my family and even when I’m alone, I’m hanging around with sinners. Everyone outside of Jesus is a sinner, and so is everyone inside. We all have the sin virus, the difference is our belief and faith tells us what the treatment for our sin is.

      I’ve never liked the saying “love the sinner, hate the sin”. To me, hating the sin all too often interferes with loving the sinner. Personally I prefer to let my neighbor dictate how I react to his sin. My job is to live a good life, be a good person, love the people I come in contact with regardless of their sin and hope that my example makes others interested in my beliefs.

  • Catthy

    I never take myself to seriously. Great blog – thought provoking..

  • Benmanben

    What conservative Christians do you think will not admit Jesus being around sinners?

    • Margotstarbuck

      Peek online.  Maybe Google “Jesus was not a friend of sinners”.  The idea is that the Pharisees said that to slander him, the same way they said he was a drunkard and a glutton.  Lots of folks believing this.

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  • Jim and Judy Halvorsen

    Thoughtful Margot. Thanks.

  • Lynn Bell

    Love the term “sinfection.”
    It seems to me like a person’s (“sinful”) behavior is just the tip of the iceberg, when you consider that God is most concerned about what’s going on in the heart. I think we need to work more on connecting people with what they need rather than simply throwing the rulebook at them. I think that’s what Jesus frequently did, like with the Samaritan woman.

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